In my understanding, the difference between a gateway and any random user is that a gateway has a well-defined process for getting non-Ripple stores of value into and out of the system. Users have to register with the gateway, and then they can put money in or get money out. So if you have some random IOUs, they probably won't be worth much because anyone wanting to redeem them will have to track down the random person and convince them to exchange their IOUs for actual items of value. But if you have a gateway's IOUs, they'll probably be worth close to par, depending on how streamlined the process is of getting the real value.
If a gateway stops processing redemptions, it's no longer a gateway.
Well, assuming you trust the gateway more than you trust a given 3rd party, then it's better. However, I guess you're asking if there is something specific about a gateway that gives their IOUs "special powers" regardless of the specific trust you place on them. – ripper234 – 2013-02-13T10:19:46.423